Back to R-I-O-T!!!

No sooner had I leapt off the bandwagon of swinging singles than I rejoined it in double-quick time. Come to think about it, I've always done things via the 'accelerated' route, but this was a tad too speedy even for my taste. Then again, I've never been one to shy away from 'biting the bullet' if I had to, so I called off an 'accelerated' relationship when too many issues surfaced that I felt could not be worked out.

I confess that patience has never been my strongest suit....and this utter lack of patience has landed me in hot soup once too often, which I have been 'blessed' enough to get out of unscathed. However, this episode only served to make me understand myself more, and exactly what I am looking out for. As they say, what won't kill you makes you stronger. I second that totally.

After a fair bit of soul-searching (lest some of my friends think I am an emotionless robot that had severed my connection to my heart and use mainly my head), I have come to realise that these are the traits I am looking for:

1. Christian (But of course!!)

2. Secure in her identity and in Him (very, very important!!!)

3. Independent and comfortable with giving herself and me space (very important!!)

4. Say what you mean, mean what you say

5. Not prone to using sarcasm or uncalled for diatribes in situations when I don't even know why or how she is unhappy (put it this way, I don't take kindly to "uncalled for' sarcasm)

Lest anybody think I am a narcissistic and conceited self-absorbed jerk, I so am not. It's just that this episode had reinforced in me the 5 'qualities' above that I am looking at. Certain things about the relationship that had gone awry are better left unsaid. That said, we are still friends (or so we claim). I have come to realise, if I am called to remain a singleton, then so be it - I am cool with it. Because I am secure in Him, and there are values that I will not compromise on. And I am ok....life goes on =)